As you stand before the mirror, considering your reflection that gazes back at you, have you ever wondered who that woman truly is?

This question seems simple but unravels layers of complexity because while understanding your true self is important for your overall level of self-acceptance—it’s an art that demands mastery if you’re going to create and manifest your Dynamic, Intriguing, Vivacious, and Authentic life – your DIVA Style life.

Knowing who you are influences every decision, every step, and every moment of peace or turmoil in your life. But how do you navigate this journey of self-discovery, and what does it mean to truly know your authentic self?

Let’s explore this together, starting on a path of self-discovery that promises clarity, confidence, and a profound sense of self-understanding.

The Quest for Self-Discovery

At its core, knowing your authentic self means having an unwavering understanding of who you are, your values, desires, and your purpose in life.

It’s about recognizing your strengths, weaknesses, passions, and what makes you tick. This knowledge acts as a compass, guiding you through life’s varied challenges and decisions without needing external validation and bypassing the paralyzing fear of making the wrong choice.

Imagine creating and manifesting a life where doubt and stress are minimized because you’re secure in the knowledge that you are living authentically, aligned with your true essence.

The Significance of Self-Knowledge

Why is this journey of self-discovery so vital?

Without a deep understanding of our authentic selves, we float along in life’s waters without a compass, often feeling lost, making decisions that don’t align with the core of who we are, and end up living a life filled with regrets and “what ifs.”

Self-knowledge brings a certain clarity and confidence that touches every aspect of our lives, from the career paths we choose to the relationships we nurture. It’s the foundation upon which we can build a dynamic, intriguing, vivacious, and authentic life – a DIVA Style life.

Pathways to Self-Discovery

Starting and continuing this journey requires patience, introspection, strength, and an openness to explore. Here are some actionable steps you can take to begin discovering your authentic self:

  1. Reflect on Your Joys and Strengths: Start by cataloging what you love doing and where you excel. These are clues to your core values and talents. Write your discoveries in your journal and give yourself time to think about how they’ve been present in your life or how you want to include them.
  2. Seek Feedback: Engage with friends and family to gain different perspectives on your strengths and how they might see you differently than you see yourself. An external view might offer insights that you overlooked because you’re so close to them.
  3. Evaluate Your Relationships: Analyze the attractions and connections in your relationships. They sometimes mirror aspects of ourselves we resonate with or aspire to have more of. Don’t forget to consider what you DON’T want in a relationship as well.
  4. Embrace New Experiences: Don’t shy away from trying new things. Each experience is a stepping stone to discovering hidden aspects of your personality. You might find that a new experience opens a door to a strength you didn’t know you had or weren’t sure you could develop.
  5. Journal and Affirm: Use journaling as a tool for self-reflection and affirmations to reinforce your self-worth and confidence. Explore your thoughts and feelings and plan to implement your learning as you move forward and learn more about yourself.


Understanding whether you know your real self is a nuanced exploration, but recognizing signs of dissonance in your life can be the first step towards self-discovery.

If you’re moving through life feeling unsure and unfulfilled – especially after the massive changes brought on by the COVID pandemic and all of its life-changing shifts, it might be time to dig deeper into who you have been, who you are, and who you are becoming (or want to become).

You can start a transformative journey toward self-discovery through reflection, openness to feedback, and a willingness to explore new horizons. Your authentic self awaits—embrace the journey with an open heart and mind.

Journal Prompts to Expand Your Self-Knowledge

Use one or more of these prompts to start or deepen your personal journaling practice. Give yourself time to think about what the prompt brings up for you and explore your feelings on paper. If you need a journal, click HERE to see our available journals.

  1. What are five qualities I love about myself? How can I strengthen these qualities even more?
  2. When do I feel most authentic and alive? Is there a person or activity that helps this happen?
  3. What activities bring me the most joy and why? How often do I include these activities in my life?
  4. How do my relationships reflect my authentic self, and if not, why not?
  5. What fears hold me back from expressing my true self? What step will I take to eliminate one of the fears in the next 24 – 48 hours?

Affirmations to Strengthen Your Self-Knowledge

Read the set of related affirmations below aloud. It’s important to your conscious and subconscious mind to hear the affirmations said in your own voice. Choose one or two of the affirmations from the set to start working with. You only need one or two affirmations, used consistently, to make a substantial change in your life.

Choose one affirmation that feels easy to you and choose another that generates resistance or disbelief. The idea is to practice extending your current self-imposed limits and encourage growth.

Say your chosen affirmation loud enough for your mind to hear your voice saying the words and take notice of how you feel as you begin and as you continue your practice. Repeat your chosen affirmation multiple times a day for at least 30 days and reinforce your affirmation by writing it in your journal.

You can change your life by beginning an affirmation practice – using one or two favorite affirmations over the course of 30 to 60 days can permanently change your mindset and your life.

  1. I am on a profound journey of self-discovery and embrace every step as my journey continues.
  2. My authentic self is worthy of love and respect.
  3. I trust my intuition and inner wisdom to guide my decisions.
  4. I celebrate my strengths and embrace my imperfections because they are authentically me.
  5. Every day, I grow closer to understanding and living into my authentic self.

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About the Author Dianne M Daniels

Born and raised in Detroit, Michigan, and currently residing in Norwich, Connecticut, Dianne M. Daniels' mission is to empower women 50+ to Amplify their Self-Confidence, Deepen their Self-Knowledge, Inspire Creativity, and Glide into the next phase of their lives with the Power of Journaling, Affirmations, and Assessments.

You can learn how to use these time-tested, proven practices to create and manifest the life you want (and deserve) to live.

Dianne is an ordained Unitarian Universalist Minister with a Master of Divinity degree from Starr King School for the Ministry. She's an avid reader, a lover of old houses (she renovated an 1850s vintage Greek Revival home with her family) and has been journaling since the age of 9.

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